Why Feeling Lost is Really a Good Thing
We seek new horizons by stepping into the unknown. And navigating that uncharted territory is going to make us feel lost a good bit of the time. We understand this concept when it comes to physical space and adventure, but why do we think it’s any different when it comes to navigating the landscape of our lives? Why does feeling lost feel so damn uncomfortable? And why do we think we should have all the answers, all of the time?
Why do we panic when we don’t know what we’re doing with our lives?
I think the panic stems from a misconception that we should be able to direct the course of our lives with no hiccups, sidetracking, detours or speed bumps. There’s a social expectation that if we’re doing all the right things, making the right choices, life should be smooth sailing.
But after years of writing this blog and sharing my road bump challenges with people, I can tell you that we all experience rough patches on our journeys. Some people are just more open and honest about it than others.
When you think you’re lost in life, you tend to feel embarrassed or ashamed. Your family and friends may seem worried about you. The longer you feel lost, the harder it is to answer their questions about what you’re up to or where you’re headed. You don’t have any answers and you feel like you should. Sometimes you wish the sky would open up and reveal the right next step for you, but another day passes leaving you still lost in confusion.
Why does everyone else seem to have their lives together?
Let me tell you, not all of them do. And even if they seem to have their s–t together, it doesn’t mean they’re happy or even content.
Feeling lost sucks the most when what we really want is control. The truth is, we’re immature in thinking that we can control most of our life experiences. We can’t and it’s high time we learn this lesson. Life is full of surprises and one of them is dumping you in the middle of nowhere!
An interesting life is bound to be speckled with periods where you feel lost and sometimes even alone. But at times, feeling lost seems like it might never end, that you’ll never find your path or purpose again. Rest assured knowing that if you’re open to what life has in store for you and you’re engaging the world with curiosity, doors will eventually open for you. They always do.
Because feeling lost is a necessary part of self-discovery.
Not knowing where you’re going indicates that you’re searching. It demonstrates your willingness to learn more about yourself and the world around you. This is a common experience for a lot of people, especially those who have high aspirations for themselves. Questioning, wandering and wondering are all par for the course among seekers, those who aren’t satisfied with the status quo.
Being lost creates a unique opportunity to discover the greater forces operating in this world. Whatever your spiritual bent, being lost brings you closer to your source if you allow it. It is through the dark that we find the authentic and unique path with the potential to fill us with passion and purpose.
If you are feeling lost right now, don’t lose hope.
Recognize that at this very moment, you are available. And the Universe needs us to be available to send us down a new road, to show us a new partner or friend, to enlighten us with new thoughts, ideas, or inspiration. Your brain won’t be able to find the way. You’ll need to invite your soul’s opinion. So light a candle, pray, walk, meditate, breathe, read, hug familiar faces, journal, dabble, follow your instincts, and most of all, feel into the hard moments.
I’m thinking of you today…