When It’s Hard to Feel Gratitude
Have you ever found yourself saying, I know I should be grateful, but…
Well, let’s talk for a minute about this gratitude thing.
Have you ever had one of those moments when something you thought you understood became so crystal clear that it changed the way you thought about almost everything? And then you want to shout it from the mountain tops and tell everyone because, of course, it might change everything for them too?
Well, here I am shouting it from the only mountain top I have in the near vicinity, my blog. It all began after having presented a talk at a spiritual gathering in my city. It was a talk about love…and if you read last week’s blog post, you got the main points I made in that presentation.
Soon after, I kept thinking about the relationship between how we perceive (or see) love and our general ability to feel gratitude and that’s when it hit me like a ton of bricks!
Gratitude is a conscious receiving of love present in the world around us. It is how we acknowledge the good that the Universe has presented to us. When we see love in anything and everything, we acknowledge it, embrace it and pull it into us with the feeling of gratitude, then we are receiving love.
But sadly, that’s not how we relate to most of what we see in the world. We have a hard time recognizing love and even when it’s right there in front of us, we can’t receive it or accept it as ours. Instead, we block it, resist it, deny it. We’re not relating to love. Consequently, we don’t feel very loved and our fears and frustrations about how we think the world works increase. As a result, we continue to block love even more.
Gratitude is being conscious of love and receiving it – not just being thankful.
Thankful is something you can force yourself to do even when you don’t want to or don’t feel it.
But if you have trouble feeling grateful, you’re not doing well at receiving love. If you’re having trouble expressing gratitude then you’re probably struggling to give love freely as well. In fact, you may not be clear about what love really looks like at all.
Lack of gratitude is when we don’t see or receive the love that is present all around us. We’re oblivious to it. We don’t see a simple rose or a stranger’s smile as expressions of the Universe’s love for us. Even if we stop and admire, are we simply smelling a flower or are we recognizing that it was put there specifically for us, as an act of love? Do we take the scent, the smell, the velvety texture into our hearts in deep gratitude?
All the things we read or hear about practicing gratitude are designed to teach us how to recognize the good “as love” and to acknowledge that as being for us, to receive it as ours. Call me crazy, but for me, this thought is life-changing, because there may be times in your life when you enter into places where love seems to be missing.
When you really understand gratitude, believe me, you’ll be able to find love anywhere and everywhere because that’s where the divine resides, in everything, in every place.
When we practice gratitude, we’re actually just practicing how to love and be loved.
Thanks for reading…share with someone who needs a little love.