The whole fact that we have named them imperfections says something about how we think and feel about them. I’d love to pretend that they don’t exist, but people actually have the nerve to point them out to me, and that’s not nothing! My imperfections can be a stop sign as big as an elephant sitting on my face. I don’t know about you, but there’s nothing glamorous (or helpful) about that!
If you’d have told me at 20 that I’d be single in my 50s, I’d have said, “No way!!” It wasn’t how I’d planned my life at all. I was aiming for true love and happily ever after, so imagine the disappointment I felt after my divorce. Initially, I resisted the idea of being alone.…
I don’t know why the holidays tend to be emotionally hard for singles. It’s as if our solo-ness is amplified by all the festive gatherings that seem to require a plus one. Putting up a Christmas tree alone, wandering aimlessly through the shopping mall looking for family gifts, attending a New Years’ Eve gala without…
Did you know that most people NEVER get their needs met and the reason is going to SHOCK you! It’s not because other people don’t want to meet their needs. Their inability to get their needs met is, in large part, because they don’t know what they need. And even if they do kind of…
The idea of not having a purpose causes millions of people to feel depressed because, without purpose, they don’t feel valued. But unfortunately, the more you search for purpose, the more unhappy you become with yourself. It seems a catch-22 until you realize that finding your purpose is like searching for your keys when they’re in your pocket.
This past Sunday, I saw him again! And as I watched him hang up his coat, I wanted to disappear. I felt like a sixth-grader wishing she wouldn’t be seen by someone she “kind of likes.” So far, so good. He doesn’t know I exist and that feels safer somehow. It all started a few…
What does it take for you to feel completely and totally accepted? I don’t know about you, but I hold a pretty high bar for myself most of the time, and feeling good enough can often be a stretch. For me, it takes self-focus and constant reminders about why I’m here. And what I’m doing.…
I’ve finally made it down off the fence. I’ve made the big decision and I’m going forward with it. In moments, I can feel my hand there on the fence rail, wanting to stay connected with what was, but my eyes are staring off in the distance of what’s to come. I’m entertaining fear and excitement daily,…
To this very day, I can still hear my mother’s burning admonishment, “Act your age!” From as early as I can recall she had a set of expectations about how we should act, especially out in public. What did it mean to act seven years old, or even ten? I was never quite sure what…
We are not our jobs, or our roles, or our incomes. We know that, but it’s easy once all of it’s gone to feel a great sense of separation and isolation from who we think we are.
Self-forgiveness is a unique way of interacting with our minds, one that can see we make choices in good faith and they don’t always turn out the way we imagine.
I don’t know. You don’t know. None of us knows what’ll happen tomorrow. We’ve never known and that’s a hard fact to take. I understand because I come from a long line of control freaks and letting go of tomorrow was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to learn. Still working on it…
I knew I was taking risk when I started looking at flights. It was a spur of the moment idea – a fantasy of sorts, like, if I could be anywhere on my birthday where would that be? It wasn’t really a plan until some really good flight deals appeared, then a perfect Airbnb close to the beach, a cheap rental car, and things got serious quite quickly. There was nothing to stop me from spending my birthday in a cute little resort by the ocean…
It happens in a split second…when life feels harder than you think it should…feeling sorry for yourself doesn’t only visit the lonely or depressed, it happens to a lot of people when faced with overwhelm – and here’s what it really means.
When I first wandered down the path of self-love, I had no idea what I was in for. I was simply looking for ways to feel better about myself and my life. I felt alone and lonely, hungry for self-acceptance and a purpose to call my own.
Soul Set in Motion 